Up Your Game

"Leave the presence of a fool,
Or you will not discern words of knowledge." Proverbs 14:7 (NASB)
People who feel broken tend to group with other people who feel broken.  They tell themselves they will get better together, but most often they just give each other permission to remain broken.
Health, healing, and wellness take ongoing effort, and honestly, we don't always want to do the work.  But if you are truly committed to healing, learning, growing, changing, and improving, you're about to find out whether you're with the right friends.
They say if several crabs are in a bucket, they will pull each other down as they scramble over the top of each other in an effort to escape.  People who do virtually the same thing are said to have a crab mentality.
If someone has tried to prevent or discourage you from reaching a goal, or has talked smack about you when you did hit your mark, you have experienced the receiving end of the crab mentality.  Walk away from those people.  That's not a refusal to forgive, it's not a judgmental attitude, it's biblical.
Maybe you ARE the crab.  When you see someone soaring, are you the one grumbling that they're only flying because they don't know how to walk?  Turn your mind around.  We're all only human, and if someone else can succeed, then you can too.  Humble yourself enough to learn from the winners how they won, and start working as hard as they did toward your own goals.  What, you don't have any goals?  Ask God what goals you should set, and get to work.
"Crabbiness" isn't just irritability, it's being nasty to people who are winning at life because that makes you feel insecure.  Stop doing that.
"Therefore encourage one another, and build each other up..." 1 Thessalonians 5:11 (NIV)
Are you at the bottom of the bucket?  Give those above you a hoist.  Are you at the top?  Offer a hand to someone below.   And wherever you are, don't let anyone pull you down.